Wild Advice for Those Who Have Lost Their Minds Over an Ex

 Hey, what’s up, everyone 

If you clicked this video, let me guess:

You’ve recently gone through a breakup, and now you’re completely losing your mind over your ex.

You’re obsessively thinking about what went wrong, replaying old conversations, stalking their socials, maybe even rehearsing what you’d say if you bumped into them at a coffee shop.

Sound familiar?

Well, you’re not alone — and today I’m giving you some wild, no-filter advice to help you survive this heartbreak.

Not the soft, polished “just focus on yourself” stuff you hear everywhere.

We’re going raw, real, and maybe even a little ridiculous — because let’s be honest, heartbreak is chaos, and sometimes you need advice that matches that level of intensity.

First, let’s get something straight: you are not crazy.

You are going through withdrawal — yes, like a drug withdrawal.

Here’s why:

When you fall in love, your brain releases dopamine, oxytocin, all these feel-good chemicals that light up the same reward centers as — wait for it — cocaine.

So when the relationship ends, you’re not just missing the person; you’re missing the chemical highs they gave you.

That’s why you keep rereading old texts or scrolling through their photos late at night — it’s not because they were your perfect soulmate; it’s because your brain is desperately craving that dopamine hit.

And the worst part? Every little hit — every “accidental” view of their story, every fake reason you invent to text them — gives you a tiny rush followed by an even bigger crash.

 Wild Tip: Go cold turkey. Mute them, unfollow, block if you have to.

Yes, it feels dramatic. Yes, it feels harsh.

But you can’t heal if you’re still peeking at their life every day like a heartbreak junkie.

Detox first, clarity later.

Let’s talk about the biggest trap: closure.

You want one more conversation, right? Just one more coffee, one more explanation, one more “let’s talk it through.”

But be honest — are you really looking for closure, or are you secretly hoping they’ll realize they miss you?

I hate to break it to you, but most closure-seeking is just another form of emotional attachment.

Here’s the truth: real closure doesn’t come from them; it comes from you.

 Wild Tip: Sit down and write yourself the closure you wanted.

Write the apology you wish they’d said. Write the goodbye you never got.

“I’m sorry I hurt you. You’re amazing. You deserve love. You’re going to be okay.”

Your brain needs the loop closed — and it honestly doesn’t care if it came from them or if you crafted it yourself.

This trick might feel cheesy, but it’s powerful.

Alright — now let’s deal with the emotional tornado swirling inside you.

Right now, you’ve got a cocktail of sadness, anger, longing, confusion, even flashes of hope.

If you just sit there marinating in it, you’re going to drown.

You need to move this energy.

Dance, run, lift weights, punch a bag, scream into a pillow.

I don’t care what you choose, but you have to let your body help you process this.

Our emotions are not just in our heads — they live in the body.

Sitting still and overthinking will only make the obsessive loops worse.

 Wild Tip: Go take a ridiculous, wild class. Sign up for salsa, pole fitness, or kickboxing.

Paint something messy. Go smash old plates in one of those rage rooms.

You need wild, harmless outlets — not more overthinking.

Here’s something you’re probably doing without realizing it: you’re romanticizing the past.

You’re thinking about the cute dates, the inside jokes, the way they smelled, the little texts that made you smile.

But you’re forgetting the times they let you down, the fights you swallowed, the needs you ignored, the moments you felt unimportant or unseen.

 Wild Tip: Make a brutally honest list of everything that wasn’t right in the relationship.

Every mismatch. Every disappointment. Every time you felt “less than.”

Keep that list on your phone.

Every time the urge to reach out hits you, read it. Out loud.

It’ll remind you that you’re not just missing them — you’re missing a filtered, polished fantasy version.

Listen, grief is not a sign you’re broken — it’s a sign you loved deeply.

But pain is not the same as destiny.

Sometimes the most intense relationships are karmic, not forever.

They come to teach you, not to stay.

So instead of asking, “Why did I lose them?”

Start asking, “What did this relationship show me about myself?”

What did it highlight? Your needs, your patterns, your wounds, your strengths?

There’s a lot of gold in the wreckage — but you have to look inward, not outward.

Now, here’s a fun mental exercise:

What if this breakup is actually the best thing that could’ve happened to you?

I know it sounds wild right now, but imagine your future self—five, ten years from now—looking back and thinking, Thank God that ended. That was the doorway to the best chapter of my life.

 Wild Tip: Write a letter from your future self to today’s you.

Tell yourself how this heartbreak transformed you, how you leveled up, how you became stronger, wiser, braver.

This gives you something to hold onto besides the loss.

Look, losing your mind over an ex doesn’t mean you’re failing.

It means your brain, your heart, your identity — they’re all reorganizing.

You built a version of yourself around that relationship, and now that it’s gone, you’re figuring out:

Who am I without them?

And yeah, it’s messy. It’s raw. It’s chaotic.

But it’s also sacred.

This is the fire that forges you.

So, be patient with yourself.

Let yourself be messy, be wild, be heartbroken, and hopeful.

Move your body, cry when you need to, laugh with your friends, dance like a maniac, wear something bold, scream your breakup anthem.

You are still alive.

You are still here.

And trust me — you are so much bigger, wilder, and more beautiful than this heartbreak.

Mike points at the camera, smiling.

If you’re going through it right now, drop a comment below and tell me:

What’s one wild or weird thing you’re doing to survive the breakup?

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I’m rooting for you.

I’ll see you next time.